Let's not compare

I'm tired of "comparing" my life with others or i should say tired of seeing others constantly do it. Is it impossible  that everybody becomes happy with whatever he or she has got either it is beauty or money? 
Happiness is so simple and people go complicated ways. By being satisfied i mean you don't covet anything that others have, rather work with all enthusiasm and determination to achieve your own dreams. I am certainly not implying lethargy. Wouldn't it be a beautiful world?


No matter what you do, you'll find someone more beautiful, intelligent,richer,healthier,successful than you. Its better you accept what you are, with your body, brains, relations, beliefs. (as long as they are original, of course).
 Even if you do achieve zenith of all that - beauty, intelligence etc you wouldn't be happy! These things in themselves are not fulfilling. What is fulfilling is the feel of having lived your dreams. And if your dreams are ugly, that is they only exist to prove your superiority over others, you wouldn't get any satisfaction upon their fulfillment. You get an ego-fulfillment in beginning, but soon life will teach you that those who matter don't care "who" you are, status wise & those who care, do not matter.


There's absolutely no point of comparing two persons' life. Each is an absolutely different story, each person is surrounded by different circumstances & environment. Its as absurd as comparing a chair and a fruit!
I would rather prefer to appreciate everybody, from a sibling to a sweeper, whomsoever i come in contact with, and help them to realize their dreams.


However intricate and baffling might be the cosmic drama of life, it is rational that everybody cannot be a "king". Everybody has to play their own roles. And thankfully, economic equality might never be achieved but happiness is seek able by everyone. 

I SHOULD?

If i go by what the world says or believes, i, as a 18 year old girl, should have a perfect figure or i should be trying to achieve that, i should be worried by about pimples on my face, tanning when i go out and so goes on list of all feminine things.

Then as a student i should be knowing all of my subjects.It would be even better if i know something extra of each.

As an adult, i should know the working of my government, all general knowledge about what's going on in the world.

To be a 'cool' individual in among my friends, i should know every non-nonsensical detail of celebrities' lives. Only yesterday a friend remarked how dumb i was , not able to recognize a famous actress.


Yeah, i should also be committed or else i'm not good-looking or desirable enough.






On looks: Cleanliness is one thing, i like to be clean , but fussing over dresses or looks seems very stupid to me. One should be well dressed, in my opinion, but it should not become a bother. At least i would not give such a thing so much of my attention.

As for "general awareness" i don't get why the hell should i be interested in people i personally don't know or affect?.....that when my own life is not perfected yet..."Be so busy in improving yourself that you have no time or energy left to direct into affairs of others"... i love that quote.


Of sports - i am more interested to play myself than to know who won the last match...strangely i don't like "watching" matches..if somebody would tell me some exciting detail of a match i will listen....but i loathe this 'fan' mania....i respect those people as they have achieved something in their lives but that is limited to that.


 I would be more interested in learning how to be happy, how to deal with life , how to handle relationships than to learn any of my subjects. At some point of time we realize the futility of all that we had crammed in real life.


Today's generation is in rage of relationships, multiple gfs/bfs, breakups, suicides and broken hearts. At least in India, in the culture I've been brought up, i find sex at an age of 16, shocking. 
Relationships have lost their seriousness and therefore their respect and sincerity and people themselves prove that they are things to be played with and they play with other things.
And if in such a world, if i'm not committed, definitely i am so uncool.   

Missing childhood?

Strangely, i don't miss my childhood. Perhaps because it wasn't perfect but then whose is. But only yesterday i saw a poll on fb : What do you miss most? and so many people answered childhood.  And there's a gazal by Jagjit singh that goes like this;


"ye daulat bhii le lo, ye shoharat bhii le lo
  bhale chhiin lo mujhase merii javaanii
  magar mujhako lautaa do bachapan kaa saavan
  vo kaagaz kii kashtii, vo baarish kaa paanii " 

I wonder what the singer misses so much in his childhood years. Maybe he is too stressed in the present situation and he misses the freedom of childhood. Or perhaps he has been close to nature in his childhood and now he is surrounded by depressing noise of the city.

Talking about responsibilities, i think they are a burden as long as we think them to be. When you take up the wrong job, establish wrong relationships then you are bound to be stressed. Life is an art and a very intricate one. It takes a lot to handle it carefully and enjoy it. And this ability to enjoy life comes when you grow up and learn what this world is all about.

Childhood is beautiful in the sense that children enjoy little things and they don't have worries. But exactly these qualities one can develop in adulthood and in a more proper way. Then adulthood may, as well, be called beautiful.

But as a child we competite for toys and are never contented or peaceful. We cant appreciate so many things of life as a child because we don't understand them at first place, but all the qualities of childhood- simplicity, innocence
can be developed as we grow or i should say preserved because these are inherent in our nature but are gradually destroyed by the society.

I think one cannot miss any phase of life provided he has lived each one fully. If  you fully live your childhood you would want to move on, same for youth. If you were to live all your life with your friends and living college life, you would be bored to death, you would be desperate to marry and have a family or whatever you want to do next in life.

The problem is child is in so much hurry to grow up that he doesn't enjoy childhood to fullest. He wants to do things that adults do and same thing repeats all  his life. And then he says he want to be a child again.:P